Steve, I wanted to say thanks for the response. I'd been missing your input for a little bit, I feel like I owe you a beer!
When/how should I remind she can return to the MBR, just when she brings it up?
No history of mental issues, sex assault a couple years before we got together and I think she tried repress/run from it. Don't think she ever got through it. Her note from a year ago confirmed she wasn't over it.
On Friday and Saturday, when she was sad, she was trying to rally me to her cause against her mom. Last night, she tells me the bad things her mom said about me. I think she just keeps trying and trying to get everyone on her side (when it's convenient). For example, she tried to get her mom on her side in regards to the MBR.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.