Ok. So if I am reading your message correctly, I should just continue with my version of NC. You seemed to imply otherwise in the earlier comments. That it was too harsh. (It feels harsh to me). I respond very friendly to her texts, but that is about it. She is not on facebook (closed her account 2 years ago) and as far as I know is not keeping tabs on me at all. Given the physical separation and my impending trip I think our contact will be non-existent. I have seen no sign of pursuit on her end despite cutting it off completely on my end. I know that lighthouses do not chase, but I wonder how she will know the light is still on.
She definitely wants to remain friends, but I do not want to get caught in the friend zone. That seems counterproductive to me, or if she were wayward - an example of cake eating. But, again, I do not trust my instincts.
If she were to express doubts about her decision again, should I handle it differently? She asked if either of us was growing from this situation, and I was dying to tell her that I am growing a ton, but I bit my tongue thinking that was something she needed to see and believe over time, rather than hear from me.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
