Wow, have I already asked if there is a history of mental issues? She's seems really unstable. What I love is that she is trying to control you and yet accuses you of being controlling. Typical WW behavior. As is the throwing up of the emailing and texting an ex (which you shouldn't have done but you already knew that). Trust me, if you hadn't emailed and texted an ex she would have come up with some other justification for her actions.
Stay the course, she's obviously reacting to your changes, just not in a productive way at this point. Do not give up the MBR and remember to remind her that if she is willing to do what it takes then she can always return to the MBR, with you in it of course.
Also, you need to create a new thread, this one is over 10 pages now.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018