Moving past the WAW-MCL to a stronger me

[Davide]

Regarding anxiety versus depression I am not sure. I am still anxious now but the fog has lifted. I felt completely without purpose or drive for a while there. I was wallowing in some heavy self pity as well.

I think the codependency was in large part situational although I have caretaker tendencies as an educator.

I will look into the CB.

Do you still think she is WAW? She definitely is not crazy,but I think she is still focused ver much on herself. When I say NC I mean that I am not initiating contact in order to break the pursuit/distance dynamic that I felt very strongly. She told me that she needed time and space. At first that meant we would communicate via text every couple of days but since I started DBing o have not initiated except for once to set up the call about logistics. I am afraid that any contact I initiate might be seen as pursuit. Basically I do not trust my instincts as this whole process runs counter to what my body is screaming for me to do. NC has certainly helped me detach and grow stronger. But I am open to other paths that can grow the R. How do you do that without being perceived as pursuing?