I chose to ignore the anniversary as per my DB-coach's advice but I did write her a short note for her birthday wishing her a happy day. I did not get a reply.
I broke my DB-ing protocol and send her another (kind) email two weeks later saying "it would have been nice to hear from you" Again no reply.
In the meantime I have been travelling through Asia and have been improving my self-worth tremendously, I feel like a different person. I was riding a "high" until I decided to check LinkedIn and noticed that my wife had changed her surname back to her maiden name. Again it was a huge punch in the gut.
The main frustrations that are grinding my gears and are keeping me awake at night are: - the fact that her parents have instigated this and it's not much to do with our personal relationship as a married couple - the fact that my wife has ghosted me and is refusing all communication - the fact that my wife does not know the full scale of what happened behind the scenes
After 10 months she finally decided to go out with her girlfriends. According to one of her best friends, with whom I am very close she acted "skiddish", nervous and uncomfortable. It was clear she felt embarassed being in a social environment. Also she said that the ordeal had visibly stressed her out and she did not appear happy although she was trying to appear happy.
This is what bugs me so much, it's obvious that she doesn't want to end the marriage but at the same time she can't talk to me because she is not allowed by her mother..
How on earth do you break through this circle!
Truthbuster.
Married 4.5, Together 6 M: 36, W: 33, no kids Separation date: 7/8/2017 Bomb dropped: 8/18/2017 Last communication: 1/8/2018 - now nothing OM confirmed - now ended (?)
