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I am looking for some advice. So, those of you following along, please read and chime in if you can.

But first, Job - dealing with him is just a constant nuisance. He has definitely lost the plot.

Andrew - I recently just checked my credit on both Experian and TransUnion and all was okay. Fingers crossed I make it to the finish line and just break free of his nuttiness.

But, I agree with Ownit that I think he filed to get a sense of control. Remember he kept texting me to sign papers without obtaining my own lawyer. He thought he was going to bully me every step of the way. The reality is there is a process to this and in the end as Ownit says, he has very, very little control. I hate to mind read but every time my lawyers and I take an offensive stance, he retaliates with some illusion of having control. And it shows in these kinds of silly ways.

For example, he said 1 month ago he would send a settlement proposal. Nothing came. And I am sure he didn't because he was thinking we would go on in this limbo financial state that benefits him. I am not really an offensive strike sort of person so he probably thought he had it made in the shade with pink lemonade.

But he just learned I filed a motion for support and for request that he pay my legal fees. He makes significantly more than me, I was a SAHM mom for a long time, he filed and my legal fees are what they are because a lot of his antics. He has clearly not been honest about finances, it's taken a lawyer to uncover that and I hope he should have to pay for making me have to uncover his lies. If anyone has experience in getting the other party to pay your divorce fees, please feel free to chime in with strategic advice. All advice is appreciated!

Now there is a court deadline, hence he lashes out with controlling the Costco card--ooooh, so tough! Eye roll, sigh and shoulder slump) and makes the PA payroll comment. As my L says, the more he communicates with me, the better. He digs himself a hole to China with each letter/text/email. Duh. Stop communicating. But he just can't help himself. I just cannot believe he wrote me a handwritten letter threatening to take me off my own financial cards. (They are NOT just "his," they are ours. And if this goes to court a judge is going to see this nonsense over a Costco card!

I am kind of worried that as it gets closer to the end here and he learns he has much less control than he thinks, that he'll get even more desperate as Job says.

Anyway, please let me know if anyone knows of cases where legal fees were covered and how those cases were won.

Thanks all!