You are right. I only apologized because being deceitful is not me. For the past 9 months, I have been doing Sandis rules. Just a momentary lapse in judgement.
All your apology did was remind her that you snooped. You had nothing to apologize for. In fact, some here don't even refer to it as snooping as much as gathering intel. Regardless, it shows you haven't detached. The problem is not the snooping it is the not detaching.
I was snooping like mad from BD until the middle of February. I was trying to detach, but the snooping made that impossible. Finally I just was able to really start to detach. And guess what, snooping became unnecessary. Not even because there weren't things to find, but more because once I started to detach the effect on my wife was profound. Detachment really does work. It works to show a difference to your W, but it also has a huge impact on YOU and your actions. And it feels good not to be tied to her actions for your feelings.
So keep working on the detachment. GAL. 180s. Being the best B8 you can be!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
