Thank you for the feedback, Sandi. Could you please suggest then what I should do. Refuse to agree to a custody order? Not accept staying outside of the marital home? Say I will object when she files? No longer stay over when she is at the M home? Tell her the kids and I are not coming on vaca if she is there? I have a hard time when my daughter is 17 months old. I am not trying to be argumentative, just trying to find the best way to draw boundaries. Thank you.