No more denial, time to get to work

[MRay]

It's been awhile, so maybe time for an update. I'm doing great! GAL is amazing. We are still living together, and getting along like best friends. Honestly, I'm just not emotionally attracted to her anymore. Physically, oh yeah, but I've let her go. I deserve someone that wants to be with me. Maybe she'll change her mind and want to be with me again in the future. Maybe she won't. And I tell you, if she wants it, she better bring her freakin' A game and convince the hell out of me.

We took the kids out to dinner last night, and had a wonderful time. I plan to move into an apartment in the next couple weeks. I have plans to buy a house, just not sure if I want to go for the bigger, lifelong kind of house or a smaller, temporary home that I'd eventually rent out or sell.

To those reading this and struggling, just know that success is not measured by whether you save your marriage or not. I read similar things when I was first here, and didn't believe it. I felt like the people that wrote that just didn't understand. All I wanted was for my family to stay together and for my marriage to work. This was not long ago, but I've learned a lot the last few months. A marriage takes two people, while a divorce/separation only takes one. Well, living a great life only takes one as well. Get out there and live it! You can't control other people, especially your spouse. If you have children, just do your best for them. The happier you are, the happier they will be and the more you can do for them. That's all you can control. Just go out there and be the best you that you can be!