Are you saying you want her to think you are falling apart? Do you see it drawing her back? If she came back out of concern for your well-being, she would not be attracted to you as a man. She needs to admire you and see you strong & independent, instead of co-dependent and crippled.
Absolutely not. But I'm concerned that if other people are giving her information rather than getting it straight from me, it could skew the progress that I've been trying to make.
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You absolutely must not break down in front of her, or the neighbor, or any of her friends. Do your crying in private.
I didn't, I had broken down between her visits that day. One thing that makes it harder is that with ADHD, there are issues with emotional regulation. The emotions work kinda the same, but can hit way, way harder than most people. There's not a lot of "control" that can be had over it, but I have been doing better with this, and as soon as I can get back in to see the doctor, I'm going to try to get it addressed.
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A man should never want his W to return to him out of concern, pity, guilt, or shame.
I don't. I want her to want to be with me, love me, and respect me as a person. I want her to CHOOSE to be with me.
