Well, give the "boy" a star for trying to bully you into submission. Definitely contact AAA and find out why you are still on his AAA membership. It could be that they didn't take you off of his membership even though you may have left you on his. A call is in order for this issue. You may want to go to their site today and send them an email inquiring as to why this happened.
As for the Costco account, you can determine who you want on your membership at any time. He can very well go to Costco and apply for a new card. Evidently your "boy" doesn't want to pay the membership fee for it. And, what is up with the "payroll" comment? Didn't know your h is your employer! LOL! He has truly lost the plot.
I guess he doesn't realize what divorce means in the way of separating accounts. Whatever cards that you need to have, that you are currently on w/him, you may need to separate them out now. If he doesn't get his way about the Costco card, he's going to start removing you from those accounts.
BTW, my xh was just like him and he got a very rude awakening when he tried to use two joint cards for purchases after he had been gone for a while. Thanks to a wonderful lady at a Master Card office, she advised me what to do about the joint cards w/purchases on them and when I had them switched to new account w/the balances, my xh couldn't use the old ones because I "suddenly" misplaced the old cards. He had no intention of paying for the things he had charged after he had moved out and yes, he was expecting me to pay his freaking bills while he was out there. I still chuckle over that one. There is always another way around things...you just have to be creative.
HaWho, you are getting more and more creative each and every day and are now able to shake your head and chuckle over some of his crazy thinking. Wait and see...your name will suddenly be removed from the cards and he won't tell you...but you can always do a credit report to see what he's been up to.
Take care of yourself and your sons. Watch your back...he could get very angry and desperate before it's over with.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
