She knows I've been reading...

[HelenaJ]

I agree with mtb, you should not be paying for her apartment. I understand you love her and you want what's best for her and that she has a toxic relationship with her Mom. However. The relationship she has with her mother is not your concern. She is an adult woman who is choosing to move away from her M and there are consequences that come with that decision. It is not your job to save her from those consequences, in fact, it's quite the opposite. She needs to feel those consequences so that she can get a full understanding of what her decisions entail. Stop paying. And if you can't do that out of respect for yourself, do it out of love for her. She needs to make it or fail all on her own because this is her choice. You're a good person and if you go back on your agreement to pay for her place, she's going to make you feel like a bad person. Because you DID tell her you would, perhaps you can tell her you're willing to do it for 90 days so she can get a job and get on her feet. And I would only suggest doing this simply because you already agreed, not because I think you owe her ANYthing. What do you think of giving her 90 days?