Wife is not who I married ..Pls Help Part 2

[LoneWlf]

I was at my niece's birthday party at my brothers this past weekend. I have a big family -2 of my brothers and their partners were there with their kids and my sister who has never married.

On a side note my brothers are not as religious as I am and do not attend mass regularly. My one brother who's home we are at is divorced. He met his current partner at work ( she's divorced) and I suspect he might have been with her before his D was finalized.

Anyways I was with the adults outside on the back porch. The kids were in the basement playing not able to hear us. So the conversation goes to my son and how he is coping. I let them know that he is struggling but I am doing my best to be his foundation because he is so angry at W. The 2 ladies then start to get a little hostile almost accusing me of making my son hate his mom.
I got on the defensive and stated that my S is very smart and fully aware of what happened. Both SIL then make the assumption that since my W walked there must have been a problem with me. One SIL even said my W would talk to her about being unhappy for some time. Funny thing is -why would W not talk to me. I responded by stating there was no beating no cheating no abuse. We had some R problems that with the proper help and attitude would be repairable but W just quit. My beliefs do not include divorce. we attended mass every Sunday.

My SIL whos divorced -pipes up well when I was married - There was none of that ( beating , cheating or abuse)but my exH worked 16 hour days and I left with just my paycheck. My 2 brothers sat back and I felt attacked as these people were making a statement that it's ok to D under any circumstance. I left the conversation and needed the time to clear my head. Looks like I don't even have the support of my family. So much for that. that was a rough nite. It seems my W might have been talking to these SIL at get at family functions and may still be in contact. (If you been reading my stitch- these are a different SIL then the one my W sees regularly). Guess I won't be hanging out there much.