Hi David you're a champ at this... you're an inspiration sticking to all the rules and GAL.... you're on track and as the experts say irrespective of what your W and you eventually decide you will be stronger because of this. Journeying.... takes time and patience. Let her continue with her journey finding herself and you continue with yours.

Yay for the rock climb... don't text to say you'll be there .... just act as if...best she gets used to seeing you around.
Nay for party....just stay in your lane... in my view will be an awkward evening for both rather leave out,,