Came to the house today to change the turns to be with kids next week. WW was still super anxious towards me as she has now been recently. As we sat down to exchange kid related affiliations, she started accusing me having a secret plan to smoke her out from the house and kids lives. Our house is a bit of the countryside and our nesting apartments are in the city. We both wanted to minimize changes in our kids lives, and would like to let them live in their home as long as possible so that they would not need to change schools, move away from friends etc. However it is economically challenging to keep 3 homes (WW moved together with another WW so for her its bit cheaper) so I mentioned to WW earlier that if it would become economically impossible to continue these arrangements some day, I cannot see myself living anywhere else than in our house at the area. WW would also like to have the house and is now afraid that I will use my stronger economics to force her out and would take the house for myself. She thinks I have some clever tactics to accomplish my goal. I have really not thought anything like this, but it is reality to her. I only want that the kids would be as happy as possible with minimal changes in their lives.
Well then she went on saying that until I have made an official contract that I do not seek after the house, she will continue to be hostile towards me. Naturally I do not do any contracts when being blackmailed, but its so obvious how she aspires the house for herself. Funny how she accuses me being manipulative...
The best part was when she threatened me about telling everything to kids how I smoked their mother out from her own home if I ever would happen to have the house. Tell that how I could treat my own kids mother that badly... Not only she feels paranoid, but I think its also outrageous to even plan to take kids between our problems. Especially when I never talked anything to kids that WW wants to end marriage/family and had PA because I do not want kids to take the sides between me and their mother. She was happy for that decision, but now she would be willing to go there herself to be able to control me.
Regarding other things, I of course also heard me being selfish and inflexible when I hold on to my own plans and do not change my schedules according to my WWs aspirations... Honestly I see myself as a big fan of flexibility but apparently I should be willing to cancel my plans whenever WW expects that to be able to earn flexibility certificate in her books.
I have to say that this bullshit put my validating skills to the test.
