Affair, no feelings...is there hope? IV

[sandi2]

At this time, giving her space and taking space for yourself is critical. Don't fall back into sticking like glue to each other. That's too much right now.

She is so filled resentment and contempt and it is days like these where it shows. These are the times she refers to when she says her treatment of me is horrible. She becomes extremely irritable and takes it all out on me. It's in subtle ways, but she knows how to make me feel like trash.

Look 44, these are tests. Yes, she resents you to the hilt, so are you just going to put up with it? Have you not listen to a word I've previously said? You need to stand up to her and tell her to cut the cr@p, or take a hike. Why are you doing this again?

I probably shouldn't have done this, but I told her I thought it was rude to not acknowledge me or simply say goodnight. Of course she had some snarky response about not needing to let me know.

Sounds just like a nice guy, telling her you thought it was rude for her not to acknowledge you. Yeah, she had a snarky remark, b/c your pitiful remark turned her off.

Anyway, in this case I think this was all triggered by me going to my workout class last night. She has been competing with my GAL for time. It's like there is this subconscious pull for her to not want me to go do GAL stuff. So, last night I declined her invitation/request to go get dinner because I had to go to the class (which she knew) and I think she was none too pleased (too bad). But when I got back she was colder and descending into the resentment flood. I think somehow some of her resentment toward me is for "abandonment", for lack of a better word.

Oh for crying out loud! Stop analyzing and making excuses for her. She is punishing you, plain and simple. Are you acting like a punished little boy?

Also, she was texting a bit today and I don't know who. I know her ex has texted her in the past few days about promotions (this is one of the only times they talk). I also know that as long as she has this much resentment and rebellion aka waywardness, it's only a matter of time before she finds someone else to talk to or contacts OM. Maybe it's time to go back to tougher love.

So, basically, she returned home and returned to her same old behaviors.....and you've done what?