H has been calling me selfish because I have set a specific time to discuss D items and it is coming up soon. Is it ok to talk about the following to him - 1) request to get some therapy something on lines of I want him to be happy too and it is important for our Ds that he is. 2) keeps saying wants freedom from burden of our M, is it okay to tell him I have emotionally set him free, have zero expectations from him and I have no control over the legal process? I want to save the M at any cost, but want to appear I am not pursuing, are these things ok to do?
