Afraid of the dark PART 3

[Ste7e]

Ok thanks for the direction V I was always bad at creating learning objectives also when making class lessons too.
I like the affirmation method you used so I tried to lead off each goal with one.

1.) Be emotionally sober and don't allow my anxiety to derail me

Because I can be in control of my emotions and have agency. I will continue to see an IC once a week to learn coping mechanisms and when I am feeling anxious excuse myself to calm down.

2.) Get a job in the field I want to be in so as to find some fulfillment in my life beyond my W

I am talented and a diligent worker so I will alot 2 hours of time daily to researching and applying for jobs. In addition, I will seriously consider moving for a good opportunity and create spreadsheets of costs and expenses to be able to do so this week.

3.) Stop trying to manipulate my W to be in the R live and let live

Because the sitch with my W is beyond my control I will focus on my own life and will stop pursuing my W and follow Sandi's rules in relation to my W. If I get pulled into a confontation I will excuse myself and work on journaling my emotions so that I do not seek anything from W.

4.) Curb my jealousy and untrusting behaviors to everyone
I really liked this V

I am confident in myself so that I evaluate relationships regularly, the people in my life are trustworthy and I give and receive trust appropriately by evaluating each relationship every year. I will not inquire about potential OM with my W because this undermines my confidence.

5.) Act as if I am moving on with my life and eventually that will become a reality

Because I deserve happiness I will focus on my own life through getting a job, playing music, writing, hanging out with friends and other activities I will eventually create a busy life which is enjoyable whereby I will not be sitting idle and waiting on my W.