Thanks peace and job! I appreciate your wise council. I have been faithfully DBing for the past month and doing a lot of work on myself and my own issues. I know that is all I can control and I all seizing the opportunity!

Right now I am reading a great book called Finding Meaning in the 2nd Half of Life. It is psychoanalysis in the Jungian style. It has given me a lot of insight about bot my W and myself. There is one passage that just screamed out to me.

"The conflict and suffering that rises in R at midlife is an invitation to examine what agendas, dependencies, expectations, and sabatoging complexes are at work. Rather than accept this very onerous responsibility, it is much easier to blame or partners, or try to reform them, or leave them."

That hit home for me. My W clearly needed a d eeds to go on that journey but found it easier to blame the R.

I would still love to hear from some of the former WW/WAW around here on the possibility of a WAW in MLC taking responsibility.

Last edited by job; 05/26/18 11:31 AM. Reason: edited a sentence for poster
W 34 Me 42
Married 7 years together 8
0 kids 1 beloved dog
BD 4/6/2018
I moved out 4/7/2018
I moved back in alone 8/05/2018
I file 3/06/2019
D official 5/7/2019