My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance

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This is a great post thanks Surfer and Cadet for your time! I am in a similar situation but maybe further along timewise? Surfer where is your backstory? Is there a way to tag people on here or copy another post with my backstory? I would love to see some posts with people who used DB and had a WOW actually R. Seems like most go the other way. I want to get the attraction and respect back.

My WOW and I are cordial, she says she wants to be friends that trust each other. I made all the usual mistakes for months up until recently embracing DB and LRT. Now we are getting along and I think she is questioning her decisions & having second thoughts. But I dont think she feels the physical attraction even though Im an attractive guy great dad in good shape. She has been telling me she hasn't been able to sleep, wanting to hug etc.

I think I am too nice. She asks what I was doing last night, I should say not your business? She left. If you want to work on R then we can discuss. She brings up dating same... I don't want to hear about you and any OM I am not your gay friend I am your husband and I will be treated with respect.

Focusing on 180's GOL, in good shape but getting towards great shape. Hanging with friends but I dont have many close guy friends. Trying to work on this but work a lot of evenings. A couple girl friends but they want more than just friends.

Want W back / family, miss daughter being in my house every day. Still very attracted to her. Tried to help her for months now trying to detach. Thanks in advance for advice!


She lives w her mom and stepdad I am in our 4000sq ft house. House sold w closing of June I am moving to a condo Im buying that could be a rental investment (GOL build long term wealth whatever she does). She stopped working to raise our daughter. I applied with her for her rental and it would be both of us on the lease, she has no income. Maybe nice guy syndrome? But for her mental health she needs to get out of her parents house, mom is toxic with untreated mental health disorders. Maybe not my problem but want to help her heal. I was a selfish emotional roller coaster, depression / stress issues self medicated with marijuana blamed her for my issues which I have since worked on. She was a great W but not herself anymore, switch flipped.

She feels I control her with money and therapist previously recommended I get her her own place. This is when she was with OM in the past. Now neither of us are seeing OP.