Is there hope?

[job]

The best thing you can do is to try not to focus on everything she says or does. The motto around here is believe nothing of what they say and only 50% of what they do.

She is going to have many, many days of being up and down and all around on the coaster. The best thing you can do is not to join her on the ride.

Keep the focus on you!

[scoobs7]

So last night the W said she doesnt know me anymore. This was due to the changes i have been making to myself. I dont get frustrated anymore, im getting on with my life and im also a cheerfull person.

But she did say that what she has done has had possatives on me. I could have screamed.

[peacetoday]

I think It may be a good idea from your previous postings to go out again with some friends or play soccer..dont tell her where
let her wonder what you are up to

they don't like it when we go out
because we are the back up plan-

let her get a glimse of the future if she continues with her A

[scoobs7]

Thanks for your input.

Im going out again next week. Have plans for mon, wed and Friday.
Wednesday and Friday will be late ones. Also taking the day off work on thursday to get some new clothes.

[scoobs7]

[Gordie]

Agree

Keep going out

Warning

When I started doing that w projected that I was seeing other women

She will make assumptions

Let her

She does not want to be a w

Do not treat her like one

[peacetoday]

The going out thing prohably will not turn her around
but may make her think
she still has her journey and MLC is a long one

But going out will help you meet some new friends and create a new life on your own (just in case)

You will also have some fun and some distractions from the craziness

you will see that you can and will be ok no matter what

Many people out there have experienced this in their M and there is a common bond for those that have walked similar roads-

[scoobs7]

Thanks for all your responses. Ive been reading the forums like crazy over the last 3 days and i may be mistaken thinking she is in mlc. I now think she is a wayward wife.

[scoobs7]

So my thinking fpr the next couple of days are as follows.

*kick here out of the MR bedroom
* sort the money out ( she 4k on the credit card, could be bjt more. She told me for 4k)
* follow sandi's rules, which i have been for the last 2 weeks, except for not angagjng in conversation. (But when i done this this morning she was grumpy, should i keep doing this?) I seem to have got the where you are going questions when we were engaging in conversation quite regulary.
* The hail mary. (Say i cannot be your friend while she engages with this other man)

[peacetoday]

If she is WAS or MLC..
you can do pretty much the same

A coach told me at the beginning of my journey
Do what works
If it brings them closer do it
if it pushes them away don't continue
But most of all- you have to do what feels best to you
We can not allow them to walk all over us or continue with behaviors that are just destructive/ disrespectful-