Yeah my W went through that too when she was full blown wayward. It was as if some mad woman had taken over the controls and my former W was sitting in the background powerless to do anything but watch.

Whenever we'd talk she would talk in the same terms, like she was an innocent bystander. one thingI did, right wrong or indifferent, was to remind her that she had the power to save the mR or end it. Kind of a verbal reminder that I was the lighthouse on the shore. I'd be there no matter what she decided. Not sure if it helped but it was a subtle way to let her no that she could control it despite her feeling of it just happening to her.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018