FTR, I believe, and have heard other experts and psychologists say the same thing, that emotional abuse and verbal abuse are used way too liberally nowadays. My W has said leveled the same accusation at me, yet I haven't been half as emotionally abusive nor verbally abusive as she has been. I honestly think that if your actions hurt their feelings (emotional abuse) or if your words hurt their feelings (verbal abuse) then they default to this stance.
For anyone reading this that has been the victim of emotional and/or verbal abuse, please know I am not suggesting there is no such thing. Just that when someone uses it when it doesn't apply it waters down the actual emotional and verbal abuse that actually does occur.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
