Well LH I thought about exactly that and was going to ask about that very thing here soon...that is, at what point can I be the initiator and ask her to do something. I'm quite sure if I was to ask her over she'd come...i think she's starting to want to see our/my cat too actually as she mentioned giving the cat a kiss for her recently.

Steve I think we are very close to that point now. I suspect within a couple more meetings with her the subject of R will come up. I don't think it's just yet, but within a month or so I think the conversation needs to be had. For no other reason than moving on with our romantic lives one way or another. She will have to understand though that if I get involved with someone else down the road, I'm not going to be able to hang out with her very much as I'm sure whomever I am with would understandably not be comfortable with me hanging with my ex wife whom I spent 20 years with. I certainly wouldn't be comfortable with that myself if a new girl was doing that with her ex.

ME: 43 W:44
M 13 years on 5-5-01
T 18 years
BD 4/27/14
D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date)
WAW moved out 5/12/14
Papers filed 6/27/14
Divorce granted 07/17/14
Our marriage ends 11/17/14