He keeps saying be amicable so it is good for us in the long run
I would agree with him. What he has been doing to you is quite cruel, but it does not change the fact. I consulted a divorce lawyer at some point, and that was the smartest thing he told me: What you do during the divorce will reflect all your lives. Among other things it is also a public record, God forbid you do something nasty and your kids decide one day to read about their parents divorce...
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He has become extremely helpful at home chores which is a 180 for him. Cooks, clean and even did our laundry for the first time ever. I am not sure how to read this.
I think it may help you to try to look at him primarily as the father of your kids. I think this is what he is trying here. (He probably feels a lot of guilt too).
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In another convo he said this M has no love, affection or respect, so I just said I am sorry you feel that way but please speak for yourself I do not feel that, at which he got more bitter and launched another verbal attack
Saying you were sorry how he felt was spot on. You may want to refrain from pointing out that you did not feel the same way... It is a form of pursuing ("We had good moments too...").
