Can I really do this #2

[Dtrmned]

I agree. I grew up in church as well and very fond memories and great times. I think my W more associates the very, very bad times with her parents and the hypocrisy that went along with it so every time it is mentioned, she just shuts down. We have been to some churches over the years, even found a two that we liked along the way, we just never stuck with it.

So BIG night last night. She blew up on the phone yesterday at me very much as I mentioned. I got home, went on my run, things settled down and she came up to me looking to talk. She said that she wasn't taking anything she said back, but she was sorry that it was a very long thyroid rage filled tirade. That she was very emotional and just ready to get things moving forward. She the presented her left hand to me and said "I just wanted you to know that I took my wedding ring off today. I just think it was time. I need to detach and this was symbolic for me to do this." I was hurt as I did figure this was coming some day, just didn't think it would be then. I flinched for a moment, made a jab or two, then re-focused and realized that (at least I think) this is her VERY much trying to solidify her position in her mind. She is struggling with her decision. She is hard pressed to stick to it. Yesterday was a hard day for her and this was her way of standing up and doing all she could to move it forward. Thoughts on this???
After her confusing non apology, I just said "ok".

When she said the ring thing, like I said, I did make a jab or two. She is totally convinced that I am seeing someone due to the fact that I am taking care of myself, happier, healthier, and not pestering her any longer. I asked her if she thought I was that kind of a man. She responded "I never would have before, but now I just don't know". I responded "I am still the same man I have always been. There were the few years of anger due to the financial crisis that was not a happy time for any of us. But, I am done with that and am moving on. I am happier with what I am doing and I know who I am. I have never in our time together been unfaithful to you."
I know this was kind of a temp check from her as she also said that I could take my ring off if I wanted to as well. I didn't respond. I will keep my ring on. IF I ever get to the point that we are D, then I will entertain those thoughts.

Weird ending though. After, we just watched a show as our D was at a party that my W had dropped her off at. She stayed a little longer and it was dark outside. I had told both my W and D that my W was taking her and coming to get her. D called and said she was ready. I got up and did some things around the house thinking it was a no brainer on this since everything was all set up. W eventually gets up and says "I guess I have to go all the way across town and get her, in the dark, and I have no idea where I am going." A lot of drama there. I just let that go. First, she dropped her off, 2nd the place is 10 minutes from our home, not across town, and if she couldn't drive at night, why didn't she just pick her up earlier? or ask me to go get her?

Should be a fun holiday weekend. Weather will be good, so looking forward to getting out by myself and with my kids!