After that massive temp check by me, which went sideways till Monday, I came home and read up on Sandi's rules and vowed to never do what I did again. As dusty and J9 said - it made me feel very small, pathetic, and no doubt she lost more respect for me. When I think about that day, it makes me cringe because all I see is a beggar asking for crumbs. I have come a long way from that day and I'll die before I beg someone to be in my life again.
So, I went NC/Dark and stepped up GAL, and kept every single convo with her about business - kids, finances etc. I never initiate a convo with her unless it's kid related and she needs to know or if it's an emergency - comes out to maybe once a month.
I am cordial and pleasant with her and she is the same in return. She told me she was so super angry with me that this would take years for her to get over. So, I got out of the way of her anger and just disappeared basically. She's polite and cordial, but I keep things very businesslike and so she would have to make an effort if she wanted to have a non-businesslike convo. I do it because I want to see her make an effort. But, so far, she hasn't, and I am okay with that. I don't want to be with someone meek and can't go for what they want.
I think her anger has subsided because I don't see it when we interact - she's been pissed of a few times and hasn't been able to even talk to me in person. But all those times that she was angry is because I stood up for myself and didn't let her run me over. So, I didn't give a $hit if she was on the rooftops angry, that's her business.
She's been sending me random kid related texts recently. It had stopped for a long time, but suddenly I get some stuff here and there. I reply politely and keep it light. I don't know if she's rearing her head out, but I honestly don't care at this point. I don't mind read and I don't pay attention to crumbs. She'd have to do something serious to get me to turn my head.
I read Mark Manson's articles here and there - I like some of it, but not all. There is a post by him called 'F#$k Yes or No'. Google it and you'll find it. And another one about the single most important trait he talks about in a woman that he wants to see. I fully agree with both posts and that's been one of the things that I keep in mind.
I keep my interactions with W like she's an acquaintance - it's not just to follow DBing, but also for my own emotional and mental protection. I refuse to get sucked into nonsense. I am pleasant and assertive - a balance that has worked wonders for me.
Long answer to your question, but sometimes i am wordy
