A familiar story with questions. V

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I understand, I do. I wouldn't have shared it if it weren't a cause for concern. If I lock down the savings, stuff will surely hit the fan. For now, I plan to keep a keen eye on things.

I am going to verify the college payment and further look through her recent spending. She makes good money in a small company and if she wants to hide money she could. She gets paid weekly with bonuses, reimbursements monthly. If she covers her share of the bill and stashes hidden savings this is the worst I would expect from her.

I'd still like to know as we are still married and I don't hide money.

After my last post, I spoke to her on her way out the door. I had plans for dinner tonight that are weather permitting. Coupled with Memorial weekend Friday traffic I told her they may change I could let her know. She had expressed that she would probably drive out and eat with her parents.
I shared that I would know by 2pm at the latest. Should I let her know or did she just want to plan on doing separate things?
She said, no, please let her know.

I know it is imposable to know what these little incidences really mean. I know that W may be appeasing me to make things easier. But I also have 20 years experience with this person and she honestly seems to want to spend time together.
Years ago during her A it wasn't the same. She doesn't or should I say hasn't done the duel life stuff very well. Anyway, who knows?