Wolf, the hardest part of DB is learning to not trust your intuition and trust the plan. No, I have not perfected it. Not even close. But I do see the value.
I see it because I tried it the other way years ago.

Don't chase and start becoming the kind of person that the kind of person that you want to be with, would want to be with.

Congratulations on the job front. This is not the only missing piece of the puzzle. Time to look within. This applies to me too.

M 53 W 54, M since 98
D15, D19
8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM
until 10/14
7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR
12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.