33. Do not give up no matter how dark it is or how bad you feel.
Ummmmmmmm yea. Ive literally been told to give up. Walk away. Forget and move on.
Again, this isn't what people were telling you. They were telling you to try to get your mind off of it. OK, your sitch is unique from most of ours because of the RO. So yes it makes it difficult to DB the normal way.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
33. Do not give up no matter how dark it is or how bad you feel.
Ummmmmmmm yea. Ive literally been told to give up. Walk away. Forget and move on.
Again, this isn't what people were telling you. They were telling you to try to get your mind off of it. OK, your sitch is unique from most of ours because of the RO. So yes it makes it difficult to DB the normal way.
I was referring o people IRL.
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
I did multiple times, but you never listened! But She didnt. Ever. Never once did she even hint that she was unhappy.
Yeah, I know. Mine didn't either, but on BD she sure claimed she did. Said she tried for 19 years, as in "I gave it all I had and now I am giving up."
WWs love to rewrite history. And they all think that sighs, and eye rolls = telling us they are unhappy.
same deal with me. She claimed that she brought it up several times she never did. There were several times where I tried to ask her what was wrong and she told me nothing I'm fine but then once everything came out of the Woodworks she tried to tell me that she had explained several times that she was unhappy. Sheer craziness
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
O.... I did this exact same thing as Maika and I'm sure many on this board have done as well. I layed it all out to her, opened up my heart to let her know how I felt and all it did was send her underground and ramp up her wayward actions. She used my vulnerability to lose even more respect for me if that was even possible. Once I finally stood up to her was the day I was able to move on with my life and see that she was no longer the person I married and wanted to be with.
My XW turned into a compulsive liar, to everyone including her family and her mom that she is very close with. It's all the same script.
