M is correct you will get squashed. It has nothing to do with who we are it is just the mental state we are in right after BD. My EW squashed me as well about a month after she moved out. I will spare you the details but I felt as small as a piece of dirt on the floor. From that moment on and told myself that I would never put myself in that position ever again. Anything I did from that moment on would be done from a position of strength.
It was crushing and demoralizing...I felt like a chump.
That is why we give you the advice based on our experiences.
