Advice on My Scenario Pt. 8 - No Anger, Know Peace

[OrangeK]

Here are her likely answers:

"Why did you do this? Why couldn't you have just talked to me and said you weren't happy?"

I did multiple times, but you never listened!
But She didnt. Ever. Never once did she even hint that she was unhappy.

"How do you live with yourself? you cheated on me 3 weeks after we got married!"

You were such a jerk I didn't care anymore. You were depressed and never there for me. And when we did interact you were angry and mean!
I was always very obviously happy to be in the R. I had some temper issues but never directed at her. Just work frustrations, financial and so on. I was never angry AT her, or mean TO her.

"How do you really try and blame ME for this? you know you planned this and executed it all behind my back, and ran when i found out."

This is all your fault. And the fact that you don't see that proves that I did the right thing!
This is somewhat accurate to something she actually said. Basically i didnt support her (i did) and that i wasnt good at parenting (i am)

"How could you do this to your son, you clearly must have seen how badly this has effected him"

Kids are resilient. This is actually healthier for him. It is better than us fighting in front of him all the time.
She has literally said this exact sentence to me verbatim. She truly believes this is the reason she left. All the fighting that happened in front of him was because she was turning wayward and fighting with me on anything she could. Which she never did before we were married. She was always very cheerful and chipper. then we got married. Dr. Jeckyl and Mr. Hyde all Day.

"Why did you even bother marrying me if you knew this was going to happen?"

I don't know.

Yea, i got lots of IDK's

"you said time after time back in the winter that "you didnt know" if you loved me anymore, if you wanted to be with me, if you wanted to come home. You did know. Why did you lie?"

I didn't lie. I really don't know.
Yea, i got lots of IDK's

"Did you EVER even love me?"

I don't know.
Yea, i got lots of IDK's

"How did i go from "The love of your life" to a tumor overnight? WTF Changed?"

I don't know.
Yea, i got lots of IDK's

When you try to rationalize with WWs you get a lot of I don't knows. I was able to ask my wife questions like that. And IDK was a very common answer.

Yea, i got lots of IDK's