She came over for a while and brought our son. We talked about the job thing some more, the issues I have...and then I asked one of the questions from DR...what would be the first sign that we have a shot? What would be something that needs to change?
And. I. Got. An. Answer!!!
She said that we don't have a love problem...we both love each other...but the thing she would have to see is that when we are angry, we still respect each other. We don't lash out and try to tear each other down.
We both admitted that yes, things are broken, but the fact that I got an honest answer in the first place is just...amazing!
She needs to feel respected, even if I'm angry at her. And she also said she needs to feel that way towards me.
Only one of those factors are in my control...how I handle my anger towards her.
Now I have a path.
Based on her answer I'd get into MC immediately. If she won't go then go without her. It seems that anger management is the key to turning your MR around. MC or IC can help you with that.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
