My need to understand is born from the fact that none of this makes sense at all.
I don't know if you read Accuray's posts in other people's threads, but I highly recommend you do a search on his posts and just read each one. His descriptions of why WAS's do what they do are brilliant, concise and logical. He has a real talent for explaining the unexplainable. Here's the thing- her actions DO make sense. They absolutely do. They follow a pattern, they are consistent with other WW's actions. The problem is you're looking at her actions through your filter instead of hers.
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I am a type of person who needs to understand the why and the how. I cannot seem to just say "well this happened, and i know ill never understand it, so i just need to forget about it and move on" I cant do that. I've tried. For months.
OK well having walked a mile in your beaten, torn up shoes I can 100% relate to this need to know. We can help you understand why a WW does crazy stuff, but what we can't explain is why they go off reservation to begin with. We don't know, they don't know, I'm not sure even God knows. Having been where you are I can tell you that eventually you will come to accept you'll never know and you will be at peace with that. But it takes a while, and I know it's frustrating.
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SHE wanted to have a child, SHE wanted to get married, SHE was the one to always bring up what house she liked and what our life as older couple would be like. SO when she obtained all she had hoped for, it instantly became rotten and useless.
Yeah, I hear you brother. My ex and I had things planned out so well. We started with nothing and worked our way up to very successful white collar jobs supporting each other every step of the way. We had investments to pay for college for all the kids. We had a very nice, paid off home, paid off cars and zero debt. We traveled together, we were happy, the kids were happy, all our friends and family were jealous of our success and our great relationship. We were set to retire comfortably at 60. Who in their right mind would throw all of that away in their 50's? Here's the thing you have to understand- NO ONE IN THEIR RIGHT MIND WOULD THROW THIS AWAY. That is the key. WAS's and WW's are NOT in their right mind. Once you come to grips with that you also come to grips with the fact that there is nothing to understand about the whole thing.
