Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 13, D busted

[ForGump]

I am not sure MWD technique takes into consideration that a lot of walk-aways/MLC/Cheaters are personality disordered and therefore doomed to fail at working on themselves. ... Do we simply enable them by rewarding bad behavior with wonderful spouses? How does that make us safe from the same violation reoccurring?

I agree that many cases that show up here involve a spouse with deep-seated psychological issues that can't be solved by 180/GAL/do-what-works/etc.

But being a wonderful spouse isn't the same as enabling them. It's to be a healthy individual with boundaries.