Thank you Maika, I will follow all your advice of trying to just concentrate on myself and the kids. He is too confused right now and flip flops every other day for me to figure out what he wants.
The change in him of doing house hold chores and taking at least half responsibility with everything at home, is this common? Is this his way of showing he can function independently or something else?
Setting boundaries- I finally after almost 3 months of BD got to a point where I wanted to set boundaries with H. Since he has decided to stay at home and continue with the D process, his attitude and treatment of me has not changed. 1) absolutely no discussion about D or complaints in front of children 2) I gave him half hour each week a fixed day and time to bring up anything he wants about this. I told him I would not be replying back and if he gets too abusive shall even walk away at all other times. I have a full time job and 2 small children, I am tired of crying and being miserable everyday so I had to set these boundaries with him. He broke both these rules yesterday and started yelling at me in front of children, D3 understands when we are upset and started crying. I requested he not talk about it in front of children but he kept going and I ignored him and tried consoling D3. He was angrier and said I was not listening to him so I asked him to come back to me at the set time, until then I will not be participating in these conversations.
This is making him angrier but I have to set some ground rules to find my peace. Is this strategy ok in the DB process. Any advice on how to tweak this and handle the times he breaks it in a better way?
