Advice on My Scenario Pt. 8 - No Anger, Know Peace

[OrangeK]

Six months after we bought the house and all of the above was set, she blows up everything - no second chance, wants to sell the house, and be done with everything. Said she's been unhappy for years - news to me. not a peep about it before.

Right? Not a word. WTF is that? Do they expect us to have read their mind and know that now that they have gotten all the things they have been shooting for for years, they all the sudden decide they want a totally different life? How old were you guys at time of BD? It seems to be a recent commonality among women in their 30's to do this crap.

You bet I had a million questions. Not to mention how f$%king unfair and brutal it was for me and the kids.

But, I realized that there were no answers to be had. And I am at a point where I don't care about the answers any more.

How did you get there? this is my final struggle, if i can get over the need for answers, explinations and apologies i feel like ill be able to truly move on. Not knowing these things are what cause me to still second guess if I did anything wrong, what I could have done to prevent it and so on. The unanswered questions are what inherently cause me to miss her. How did you get there Makia?

If she was willing to shatter everything without even making an attempt to rectify things, it's on her. The kids will hold her accountable one day, and at least that will be one reckoning for her. I know I did that to my parents, and it changed my relationship with them.

So, she can sit in her own funeral when that day comes.

I agree with this 100%. She has claimed in the past"i grew up in a divorce household, im fine, S3 will be fine too"
Well firstly, no, you arent "Fine" really F***IN' far from it.
And S3 wont be fine either without some serious help and guidance thanks to you.
How are things between your EX and you now? How well do you do co-parenting?
Did she go through her phase of "hating you"?
I just cant wait for the day the GAL and 180's im doing and will have done fall into realization for her. it will be a good day.
Thanks Makia,
I really hoped you would throw $.02 on here and im very glad you did.

ive been doing mostly better, dont know why today has been so tough.
As much as i said it didnt bother me yesterday, maybe knowing she dropped my last name and our photos off her FB subconsciously ate away at some of my resolve.
Who knows.

Im still looking forward to this weekend quite a bit, and plan to enjoy myself.
GAL.