O - TBH we all got hosed. I am 44 with 2 young kids, married for 14 years and she just tapped out one day. Trust me it could be worse.
What everyone else said is correct.......you will never get the answers you are looking for. Early on the more I pressed my EW for answers the more pissed off and angry she got.
I would strongly advise you to not reach out or ask anything.
