Man, I know you want answers. Trust me, almost all of us want answers. But you're going digging a hole that has no diamonds at the end of it. Here is my sitch in a nutshell and it makes absolutely no sense what happened, and I did want answers.
1. We moved around until we both secured good jobs. It took almost 8 years since we got married to get there. 2. We had 2 kids in that time which she wanted as well. 3. We finally bought our first home together. It was more than perfect - in the best school district in town; 2 minutes from the school; our work was 15 mins drive from it; it was a beautiful home with amazing space indoors and outdoors. 4. We were in a place finally where she could pursue her grad studies - which she started after we bought the home. 5. My job was finally a rewarding one and I was doing great. 6. Kids were unbelievably happy at school and we had good extracurricular activities for them. 7. We bought a new car because we needed it.
Six months after we bought the house and all of the above was set, she blows up everything - no second chance, wants to sell the house, and be done with everything. Said she's been unhappy for years - news to me. not a peep about it before.
You bet I had a million questions. Not to mention how f$%king unfair and brutal it was for me and the kids.
But, I realized that there were no answers to be had. And I am at a point where I don't care about the answers any more. If she was willing to shatter everything without even making an attempt to rectify things, it's on her. The kids will hold her accountable one day, and at least that will be one reckoning for her. I know I did that to my parents, and it changed my relationship with them.
So, she can sit in her own funeral when that day comes.
