update W came by - I stayed very calm an she picked up some of her stuff as I went about and did my thing. I find it odd now that she has to tell me that she is leaving because I was in the basement on the phone when she came down just to say she was headed home.
For this R my W is the primary bread winner (not by choice). I am finishing short term disability.I have some potential jobs lined up. We have joint Checking, savings, and credit cards with me as the primary card holder. No separation agreement in place. I was in charge of finances and paid all the bills.
A couple months ago my W went ahead withdrew over 15k from our savings account( about half). The next day she told me about it and said she thought I might freeze the account. Since that time she has got herself a lease on an apartment, a storage locker, gone on this trip with sis (about 4-5k). I have been monitoring the bank accounts online. I noticed a purchase from a big box store of $1500. Before we had a rule where we would inform each other of all purchases. I'm not sure if this is theft of if she purchased it. Secondly if she burned through 15 K in a matter of months then i need to protect myself and my S. How should I proceed with out making it look threatening or aggressive? Her means of communication now seems to be thru text -should I call her or just text her?
Please advise-thanks!
M51 w50 T-20Yrs M-16Yrs S15- mad at W for not trying and giving up 1 Awesum dog BD 10/31/17 separate rooms 02/08/18 wife moved out 05/17/18
