Is there any history of mental illness with your H or his family? Something about all this just doesn't seem right. I can't put my finger on it, but it is almost as if he just isn't thinking clearly.
There is no history with him or family but he keeps saying he was severely depressed last year and blames me for not understanding him. He neither discussed this with me or sought any medical help, I knew he wasn't himself but thought it was just work stress and dealing with a toddler and the fact that we were expecting another baby and the added responsbilities. One of his complaints for wanting D is that I did not support him thru his bad times last year. So his plan that he has disclosed to me so far is, we get D ASAP then move to another state through the same jobs. He has said he will live together now and after D in the same home here but once we move to new state he does not share specifics. Until 2 weeks ago he could not wait to move out and get his own apartment, kept talking about it and then changed his plans. We are from a south east Asian background and although neither of us has any family here, work and live in a predominantly south east Asian community. I think he is worried by the social aspect of being judged by people around us for getting a D when we just had another baby. If he continues to live together he can keep it under the rugs and as soon as we move to a new state as per his plan it will be a clean slate to start afresh. He shares very little so this is just my analysis of the situation. But it is very true, he is all over the map of what he wants, the only constant is he just wants the D immediately.
