Great story Eric, I look forward to hearing the rest!
Originally Posted By: Davide
Success stories are hard to come by around here.
Here's one of the unfortunate truths about these forums- once people turn the corner to "success" they almost always quit posting. I think that most people want to turn that page, close that chapter and leave it behind, they don't want to revisit it. Sometimes we hear from people who reconciled, but not until years later like in Eric's case. And sometimes people who didn't reconcile will pop back in with an update about their awesome new life. I've seen a lot of people over the years come back and say they are HAPPY they were BD'd and ended up D'd because they ended up meeting someone that fills up their lives in ways they never imagined before.
And that is what happened to me. I loved my W and had every intention of living out my entire life with her. BD turned everything upside down, it was an alteration to my reality that I could not wrap my mind around. It was confusing, painful, didn't make sense, rocked me to the core, made me question everything from my religious beliefs to my personal hygiene. It took about two years for me to well and truly drop the rope and come out the other side. And who was there waiting for me but this beautiful, sweet, sexy young lady that shares nearly all my interests. She loves to go for motorcycle rides, go hiking, go to haunted houses, go to theme parks, go to movies, ALL things my ex would rather have gone to get a root canal than enjoy with me. And the sex is just crazy, over the top, mind-bending stuff that exceeds what used to be my wildest fantasies. And 3 years later we are more in love than ever. My current relationship makes me question why I was so all-in with my ex, I had somehow settled for a mediocre relationship. When it comes down to it, if any of us had great marriages we never would have ended up here because a truly great marriage is a two-way relationship. If your spouse didn't like the M then chances are good that you didn't either, it just so happens that she was the one to BD first.
Anyway I don't want to turn Eric's thread into my story, but the point is Eric's recon is a fantastic success story, but my story with no recon is a great success story as well. If you DB right you will be a success story NO MATTER WHAT.
