Mediation meeting upates - H asked for 50% split with kids and all other assets, when the mediator started talking to me and we got to specifics with kids I just broke down. I know I have to always act happy in front of H and I have been but yesterday was beyond my control. I told the mediator that i do not want the D and dont think it is right for us or the small children we have. H mentioned to her he plans to stay at home until the D and even after to raise the kids together and the mediator advised against it saying it is not healthy for the kids or me to do continue living together after the D, at which point I told H that i will not live together after the D gets finalized. The meeting conculded with her suggesting we get some couselling and then meet again in a month. H has declined to go to any counselling, I plan to go to show my committment to the cause. I dont understand why he wants to continue living together and yet ask for 50% custody He keeps saying be amicable so it is good for us in the long run, how do I continue trying to support him through this process that I am opposed to?
Behavior at home - I have been patient and we are functioning like a well oiled machine at home. We had extended family staying with us until 2 weeks ago helping with baby so this is the first time after the BD that we are just by ourselves. But he still decided to proceed with it without any delay as soon as my MIL left. I try validating as much as possible and keep conversations minimal. His attitude to me is still hostile and regulary launches the attacks. I am working on detaching so his words still hurt me.I get out of the house as much as I can with the children to give us some distance and he has completely stopped socializing. Work and back home is all he does and continues to be on his phone 24x7. He has become extremely helpful at home chores which is a 180 for him. Cooks, clean and even did our laundry for the first time ever. I am not sure how to read this. I asked him to reconider his decision before we met the mediator, did not beg or plead but said it is not what our children deserve. He said he would never reconsider and 'after detaching from you I am more productive so will not give this up'. In another convo he said this M has no love, affection or respect, so I just said I am sorry you feel that way but please speak for yourself I do not feel that, at which he got more bitter and launched another verbal attack Any guidance on how I should proceed and how i have performed to some of these situations is much appreciated
