S3 went home from school sick yesterday. I just asked MIL how he was doing. WW Sent me a photo of him at the beach that just said "Fine". I just replied "Thanks, i hope he has a good day at the beach! enjoy your day"
This was surprising as i didnt ask her, i asked MIL, MIL must have told her I asked. She may be a bit irked after yesterday and the fact that Wednesday is usually her day off where she brings him to school so she can have the day to herself, but since S3 was sick yesterday he cant go to school, so she might be irritated she doesnt get her day off to herself.
Still weird of her to actually send me a message. Oh well, not over thinking it.
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
Why in the mind of the WW do they treat LBH like the bad guy? They know they are in the wrong, and i get re-writing history, but in the back of the mind of the WW they know that LBH didnt do anything wrong. Why treat them like the enemy?
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
Firstly. F**K You. you built me up to smash me down. you know what would happen before we even got married, so why ruin both our lives over it? why the F**k didn't you just tell me you didnt want to be married to me? Why put our son through all that? You took his home away, you took his room away, you destroyed his development and all for what? so you could feel some butterflies again that are going to die just like they do everytime? How Effing selfish can you be? to put your need into action before even THINKING of what it would do to effect your son, who you claim "Is your world"? What a load of BS, the only world you have is your own, and that world revolves around you.
I have come to the conclusion that you are sick, and damaged, and that isnt your fault. You were broken, just like you broke me, and it isnt fair to hate you because of something you couldn't control, like your abusive father and your sycophantic mother.
However, you are an adult, a mother and you were my wife. For all your fantasizing about a perfect marriage you sure had some piss poor ideas about how to be in one. Youll never have your fariy tale, becuase it is simply that, fiction. Real love isnt what you are constantly chasing, if you had stuck around long enough, you could have felt what real love really was, but you didnt, because you cant wait. You are a little child, a spoiled little girl who will never grow up.
Its sad, even Peter Pan eventually realized it was time to grow up and go home. Im sorry you never will. Im sorry you will never truly know love, or even how to love your son. Im sorry someone else did this to you, I am sorry you will continue to do this to other people until you truly run out of targets, then you will be perpetually alone. That is sad and pitiable. But you knew better. you planned all this, you schemed, you lied, you manipulated and you messed up. You got caught before you were ready and the bomb you were building blew up in your face. Im not sorry about that, you deserved it. OM deserves whats coming to him too, because i know you cant help yourself and you are going to destroy him too, then the next one, and the next one and so on until you are a sad lonely creature.
Im sorry you are what you are. Im sorry someone made you that way. Im sorry i ever met you. Im sorry you have to live like this forever. Im not sorry you'll never be able to do this to me again.
I hope you heal. I hope you seek help. I hope you see the error of your ways.
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
Why in the mind of the WW do they treat LBH like the bad guy? They know they are in the wrong, and i get re-writing history, but in the back of the mind of the WW they know that LBH didnt do anything wrong. Why treat them like the enemy?
You are forgetting the coping mechanism of self-deception. The WW TRULY believes that she is justified in what she is doing because she has convinced herself that the LBH IS the bad guy. That is what rewriting history is all about. Justifying what they know to be wrong. "But its his fault because he treated me like crap!"
Self-deception goes way beyond just WW, people have been doing that for centuries. One that is very common today is Hs feeling justified in using porn because their wife doesn't provide sex for them. Same concept: I feel guilty for doing something wrong, so I justify it by blaming her.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Why in the mind of the WW do they treat LBH like the bad guy? They know they are in the wrong, and i get re-writing history, but in the back of the mind of the WW they know that LBH didnt do anything wrong. Why treat them like the enemy?
They like it, it's fun to do when you have scrambled eggs for brains.
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
