After my WW recently said that she wants to start dating others, I also decided that I can start to talk to other women, even though I will not be ready for dating any time soon.
So today I was having coffee with a woman that I know from my previous job. We chatted about couple of hours and she expressed that she has always wanted me sexually, but how I always appeared unattainable. She went on saying that she dont want to regret that she never slept with me when she is old (odd..). Well I replied that sure I felt physically attracted to her, since she is physically very hot woman but that I did not feel ready for it. Then she asked me to let her know whenever I am ready
I know Im not ready in dating at all now, and would not date this girl even if I would be ready due to personality issues (also dont really like ladies being that pushy), it would only be relieving sexual pressure and feel womans body next to me. Also knowing how nasty my WW betrayed me, sex with this woman could help me to mentally detach from her IDK. And as I mentioned earlier, WW wanted to openly start dating others, so who knows what she does and with whom, so I dont count our wedding vows legitimate any longer.
On the other hand I have systematically avoided everything that makes me feel emotionally worse, i.e. hangovers and unhealthy lifestyle. It would feel weird to have sex with anyone else than W after been faithful to her for so many years. So its hard to say what kind of feelings I would have afterwards and I dont want to risk my healing process and feel emotionally bad.
How have you others figured out having sex, and if you have had it, has it disturbed your healing process?
