No, you didn't do anything wrong in asking him to come over. Had you been specific, he wouldn't have come over and most likely would have had an excuse not to come and help sort things out. If he doesn't return this weekend, what are you going to do about his "stuff"? You want it gone, right? Then you might want to think about renting a place at a storage facility in his name, move the stuff over there and give him the key and lease agreement. If you don't want to do that, I would seriously give him one final text and advise him that if he doesn't show up on a certain date, you are going to donate his stuff and follow through with it.
Coly, you have been his free storage facility for two years and he's not making a move to come get his stuff. Time to clean house completely and make it your place. He's very happy w/the way things are and doesn't plan to rock the boat.
Andrew gave you some very good "soft" advice. Listen to him. You are the author of your life story and no one else is allowed to write it for you. Think long and hard about what you want to do and go for it. Also, if your daughter was in this situation...what would you advise her to do?
Coly, it's time to focus on you, what you want and go for it.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
