It definitely wasn't meant to harm him. If, when he texted back, he asked the purpose I would have told him but he didn't. He just said he can come over at 3.00pm if that time is convenient to me.
Good question about whether I want a social visit with him. Off course, yes I do. But in the past it has been very painful when it was time to go so I stopped asking. Also he hardly initiated, only maybe once or twice and I was concious this could be perceived as pursuit so I stopped. As time has gone on the goodbye's are still hard but manageable and I can watch him walk away without getting anxious. Obviously afterwards and for a few days I feel very sad as evidenced by my posting!
I hate analysing theses visits. I thought I had gotten past this stage and accepted that whatever I do or say won't change anything but here I am again wondering if I have done the wrong thing!
For the majority of the time I leave him to it and dont contact him and he never initiates but I was surprised at how easily had agreed to come over at such short notice. All his friends say he does not have OW so should I invite him over every now and again? If he had OW I definitely wouldn't, that would be my boundary.
Anyway, I was wondering if I should ask him if he wants to come over for breakfast on Sunday before we start loading all his stuff? What does everyone think?
Me - 47 H - 45 D-16 M - 6 years Separated - May 16
Don't leave me behind can't you see me I'm shining... (Years & Years - 'Shine')
