Yes Btrow I too like Zues' line of thinking and it clearly most accurately describes my sitch. He obviously is familiar with my WAW since I started posting here.

As far as your remarks about WAW contacting me the day after my recent breakup with Mary... THAT is the biggest mystery to me to-date!! What was her motive here? Sure she wanted to get my photos back to me but I doubt she found them at that point. I think she had them for awhile before that contact. Surely if you want to just be friends with someone it doesn't matter whether they are in a relationship or not...so was it coincidence she happened to text me for the first time in 2 years 24 hours after my split with Mary?
But that is really the center of all of this...that initial contact from WAW that has led to this regular communication with her that she seems to want to maintain with me. Are her motives friendship with me ...she may say that...but I think she, like me, just wants to see where our new relationship goes.

ME: 43 W:44
M 13 years on 5-5-01
T 18 years
BD 4/27/14
D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date)
WAW moved out 5/12/14
Papers filed 6/27/14
Divorce granted 07/17/14
Our marriage ends 11/17/14