I know LH but I still don't think trying to get her in bed 3 weeks ago, or putting a move on her would have ended well. More likely, had I done that she probably wouldn't even be talking to me at all now...much less initiating all contact as she is now. I don't know, does anyone else think I should just be aggressive with her and make a move on her to go on a date or get her in bed? Maybe I'm wrong but my gut still says that kind of thing would be a collosal mistake.
Are you satisfied with this current R with her being the status quo? Who made the first move when you first got together, you or her? Do you usually let the woman be the one to make the first move, or do you usually take the initiative?
If the answer to Q1 is yes, then do nothing. If no, then move to Q2 and 3. If the answers to these are you and you, then go for it. If the answer to Q2 and Q3 are her and the woman respectively, this is the new awesome ItHurts, so maybe you should 180 and make a move.
So really the only answer that matters is Q1. If you are good with have her be your new friend to hangout with, then do nothing. Otherwise maybe you should at a minimum have a discussion with her about where this is headed.
"I learned in the last 4 years that life is too short to sit around and wait. So where is this thing headed? Are you just wanting to be friends? If so, fine, we can continue to hangout as we have time and availability. If not, then what are you doing next -insert day-, would you like to go out on a date?"
If she says she just wants to be friends, then explain to her that you are going to move on with dating and if you get serious with someone, the friends thing will likely come to an end. I mean, who wants to get serious with someone that still hangs out with their EX?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
