ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
Okay AS, WAW just replied and told me that she just got in her car and the ironically the song the band opened with that I mentioned was on the radio. Even funnier I had the same radio station too so I told her. She replied back just now with "Yes (and she named the station)"
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
Okay since my last post above we went back and forth with small talk. She mentioned how she's had trouble sleeping and I mentioned that it stinks I'm on day shift today after a late night concert. She replied with "ugh!" I replied with "I'll live" she replied with "Hope so. Lol" and o left it at that. How'd I do with that exchange?
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
Thanks Steve. I'm always so uncertain how to reply, if I should reply, and what I should reply with. But yes, I like to be the one to end it. I value the opinions get here when it comes to that. For now that was it from her. I'm just starting to wonder what's going on with all this. I seem to be getting nowhere, as if I'm at a point where this is what it's going to be with her. Just friendly banter.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
I know LH but I still don't think trying to get her in bed 3 weeks ago, or putting a move on her would have ended well. More likely, had I done that she probably wouldn't even be talking to me at all now...much less initiating all contact as she is now. I don't know, does anyone else think I should just be aggressive with her and make a move on her to go on a date or get her in bed? Maybe I'm wrong but my gut still says that kind of thing would be a collosal mistake.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
I know LH but I still don't think trying to get her in bed 3 weeks ago, or putting a move on her would have ended well. More likely, had I done that she probably wouldn't even be talking to me at all now...much less initiating all contact as she is now. I don't know, does anyone else think I should just be aggressive with her and make a move on her to go on a date or get her in bed? Maybe I'm wrong but my gut still says that kind of thing would be a collosal mistake.
Are you satisfied with this current R with her being the status quo? Who made the first move when you first got together, you or her? Do you usually let the woman be the one to make the first move, or do you usually take the initiative?
If the answer to Q1 is yes, then do nothing. If no, then move to Q2 and 3. If the answers to these are you and you, then go for it. If the answer to Q2 and Q3 are her and the woman respectively, this is the new awesome ItHurts, so maybe you should 180 and make a move.
So really the only answer that matters is Q1. If you are good with have her be your new friend to hangout with, then do nothing. Otherwise maybe you should at a minimum have a discussion with her about where this is headed.
"I learned in the last 4 years that life is too short to sit around and wait. So where is this thing headed? Are you just wanting to be friends? If so, fine, we can continue to hangout as we have time and availability. If not, then what are you doing next -insert day-, would you like to go out on a date?"
If she says she just wants to be friends, then explain to her that you are going to move on with dating and if you get serious with someone, the friends thing will likely come to an end. I mean, who wants to get serious with someone that still hangs out with their EX?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
My 2 cents Give it 2 months then make a move if she hasnt If you get friend zoned then just be friends and start dating someone else She might even come along then but slow roll it No expectations
M 40 W 34 Together 7 Married 2 No Kids BD 1/18 need space Moved out 2/18 ILYBNILWY & Asked for D 3/18 W filed for D 6/18 D final 10/18
